5 tips to help you quiet the inner critic & reduce anxiety.

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Self criticism is one of the key drivers of anxiety. By treating yourself with contempt, frustration and anger you undermine the very part of you that brings you happiness and joy. By quieting the critical voice inside you can start to nurture that spark of joy, creativity and confidence that often sits silently in the background. This will shift the perspective of your day, giving you a more positive, accepting and stress free outlook. Here are 5 tips to help you make this part of your routine:

1. Wish yourself good morning as soon as you wake up. 

Instead of opening your eyes and immediately thinking of all the things you have to do, try taking a moment before your head fills with noise, to wish yourself a good morning. If you have a pet name or nickname you like, address yourself with it. By wishing yourself a lovely day as soon as you open your eyes, you trigger an emotional reaction of happiness, maybe even laughter, you then start your day by creating a mental perspective built on self care, respect and love.

2. Appreciate your senses.

While you brush your teeth or do your hair try picking one of your sensory organs, your eyes, nose, ears etc and consider not what it looks like, but what it does for you. We get so caught up in how we look, we completely bypass the incredible things we DO all the time, perfectly! Consider your eyes, for example, stare into them while brushing your teeth. Look at the intricate pattern and colours of your irises, they are like miniature planets! Think about what they enable you to do; gaze upon loved ones, absorb your environment, protect you from harm etc. marvel at the wonders they provide and feel gratitude for their relentless service. If this resonates with you please see my 'Repeat after me: 'I am enough blog' and use the Mirror Exercise on the Reiki Healing YouTube channel to guide you through this process more deeply.

3. Change the tone of your inner voice.

Consider a person, pet or child you really love. Close your eyes and picture them in your mind. Consider all the wonderful things they make you feel, how much you adore them, what you would do for them and how you would protect and care for them. Now replace that person, pet or child with yourself. Notice the difference about how you feel? Try treating yourself the same way you treat those you adore, change the tone of voice you use for yourself to the one you would use for them and feel the difference it makes to your inner confidence. Self love is the most potent contributor to inner strength.

4. Plant your mental garden.

Imagine that your mind is a garden and that every thought you have is a seed that you plant in your garden. Every positive loving and nurturing thought is beautiful, colourful and fragrant flower, each criticism, or negative thought is a weed or thorn. This is your garden, nurture it by helping your thoughts be as kind, loving and beautiful as possible and enjoy the paradise your mind becomes. 

5. Take a breath between your thoughts.

This is the most challenging but the most rewarding tip! While on your commute or a lunch break, create some quiet, mute your phone, stare out of a window and for snatches of time see if you can help a pause between thoughts be a bit longer than normal. To help you, observe the things around you, look for the smallest details of what you can see, try not to judge them and allow your inner voice to return, merely take them in as they are, their colour, shape and form. The goal is to to hold silent awareness for as long as you can. The quiet this creates in your mind is the most powerful healing you can do for yourself, in this state you are simply aware, present and sitting in your own space, in peace.

I hope you find these tips useful, please let me know if there is a particular topic you would like me to write about in the comments below.

Much love and abundance,

Kay x

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